What is the one thing you should never say to your girlfriend when she is being irrational?
"Baby, you are being irrational."
That is a huge no-no my friends. A surefire way to get you kicked onto the proverbial couch (or in some cases the actual couch).
No matter how irrational your girl is being, you'd best stay away from pointing out the obvious. Nothing will enrage her more than you telling her that she is one big ball of hormones at the moment and you have no idea why she is acting so crazy.
Here is an example for you.
My girl and I were having a nice conversation the other day about an old friend of mine who happens to be a woman. I have spoken about this friend a bunch of times before as she is a good friend of my family's. We have known eachother literally since we were both babies.
This friend has never had the opportunity to meet my girl and is coming to town to visit next month. She is in dire need of some new clothes and my girl loves to shop with people, so I said, "Hey baby you should take her shopping. You could make her over, it would be fun." To which my girl replied, "what do you mean?" I told her that my friend is like one of those clumsy, dorky, but pretty girls from the movies that would really benefit from a makeover. This is where things went sour.
"Oh m god you are so lucky your friend is married."
"What the hell are you talking about?"
"Listen to you, you are gushing about this girl! She is sooo cute and dorky and pretty!"
I don't need to go much further for you guys to see that this escalated pretty quickly. I was highly offended because she was clearly pulling this shit out of her ass, and she was pissed because she was off her meds (there can be no other explanation!). During the spat that ensued I just kept thinking in my head, "you are so insecure sometimes." I dared not say it aloud because I know that is one of those things you just steer clear from if you're smart. After about ten more minutes of her lashing out at me my better judgement went out the window.
"I really don't appreciate you getting mad at me over your own insecurities."
That was the end of it. She gasped, gave me the evil eye for a sec, then walked out the room. Needless to say she gave me the cold shoulder for a while. That's what I get for telling the truth.
Now women, before you start clamoring, I will agree that men can also be guilty of projecting their insecurities or being irrational. Of course we can. The only difference is we are used to women telling us about ourselves. So if you tell me I am just being insecure I will either laugh it off and say whatever, or I will say yeah I am so what?! To a woman you are invalidating her existence by telling her something like that. She must be allowed to rant no matter how unnecessary it is. See the difference?
End analysis. Cue angry mob.
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